EFT and Fertility

I have used EFT many times and often teach it as a tool in my classes and programs. It is such a powerful healing tool and I wanted to share it with you. This article was written by EFT Practitioner Sarah Holland. I hope you enjoy it! Hugs, Sue

EFT is an easy technique to learn and use, for successful stress reduction and emotional well-being. Based on the same theories as Chinese acupuncture, it is stunningly effective for dissolving negative emotions including anxiety, worry, fear and anger. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques, and the principle behind it is simple:

The cause of ALL negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.

EFT utilises the meridian system which has been used in acupuncture for thousands of years. This modern development uses no needles, but instead a simple tapping technique on specific points on the face, upper body and hands while focussing on the emotional issue you want to work on and repeating words and phrases to help the process. The tapping on these special points balances the energy disruptions, releases negative emotions, and helps us back into a state of balance where we approach challenges with a rational and logical outlook. Unnecessary negative emotion which is unhealthy and damaging is resolved with EFT and replaced with more healthy emotions that benefit our physical and emotional well-being. The tapping can seem a little crazy at first, but once you get started you will soon understand how quickly it can reduce, and usually eliminate, intense negative emotions.

So how can EFT help with fertility issues? Anyone who has been trying for a baby for some time knows all about the rollercoaster of emotions involved. Common emotions include jealousy, anxiety, panic, fear, worry and guilt. And although you know that stress can further block your attempts at conception, it’s so difficult to switch off these emotions, especially when you get a negative pregnancy test, or your period shows up.

EFT is also a highly effective technique at removing psychological blocks to conception. Past traumas, memories, beliefs about pregnancy, birth and parenthood, can all affect how you truly feel about having a baby. You may feel ready to be a parent, but are there any hidden blocks that are stopping you from conceiving? EFT helps you identify and resolve these blocks, and move you towards having your baby.

Fertility treatment such as IVF can increase your stress levels even further, as so much hope and expectation is built up around ‘Test Day’. You wouldn’t choose to put yourself through so much stress when you are trying for a baby, but when faced with the challenge of fertility issues it seems inevitable. Or is it?

Many women all over the world are using EFT to improve their chances of conception. It’s a popular technique because, unlike other methods, it can be used both in a therapy session and as a self-help technique, it often works very quickly which also makes it low cost, and the results can be outstanding. Here’s what some women said about their use of EFT for fertility issues. (They had all been trying for a baby for a number of years, and became pregnant soon after).

"It was hard to believe how quickly EFT worked for me. I had trouble dealing day to day with issues surrounding my infertility problems. Just thinking about them brought up so much anger and frustration and jealousy towards other women who were pregnant or had babies. After using EFT I felt all the anger, frustration and jealousy lift. I'm definitely much more relaxed now and people have even commented that I seem happier."
- SM (now a mother to 2 children)

"I first used EFT on the day I got a negative pregnancy test after IVF and I could barely talk I was crying so much. EFT helped me to relate what the emotions were and enabled me to hope for the best at the next attempt."
- J (now a mother)

"I am a very anxious person and was aware that stress and anxiety can have an effect of fertility. EFT helped me to identify my feelings of panic and fear at not being able to conceive naturally and also addressed my feelings of envy for friends who conceived easily. After using EFT I was surprised by the change in my outlook. I am now feeling far more positive about the journey I am on in order to have family of my own and hoping for a blue line soon!"
- AL (now a mother)

EFT can be learnt as a self-help technique at little or no cost. To learn EFT from scratch and use it specifically for fertility issues to improve your chances of conception, the ebook ‘Overcoming Infertility with EFT’ is ideal. It gives clear EFT instruction and is in a practical, easy to use format that is suitable for all fertility issues. Read more about 'Overcoming Infertility with EFT' click here.

You may like to work with a professional EFT practitioner, either over the phone or in person, in addition to using EFT by yourself. Some people find that even more can be achieved this way, and more complex issues can be approached. Sarah Holland, the author of 'Overcoming Infertility with EFT', is a Certified EFT Practitioner who specialises in optimising fertility. She is based in the UK and works over the phone with people all over the world.

Sarah Holland www.TapIntoYourPotential.com

Understanding your Chakras

This is the first of a series of blog posts that will explore the body's chakras or energy centers in relationship to your fertility.

A chakra is an energy center in the body. We have 7 main chakra centers. Each one is connected to our whole being on many different levels – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  Each chakra has its own color and vibration and is governed by an endocrine gland.

When a chakra is out of balance there may be an energetic block or the energy center may be over-active or under-active. If any of the chakras are out of balance or blocked, it may affect you on a physical, mental and/or emotional level. For example many of my clients are desperately seeking answers and solutions to their fertility issues. This often leads to an over-active 6th chakra (3rd eye) creating tension in the sinuses, a busy mind and confusion.

I notice this often when I work one-on-one with my clients.  I place one hand on the front and and one hand on the back of the 6th chakra.  I can feel that the front is open wide and the back is closed or neglected. I will often close the front of the 6th chakra and they feel instant calm in the mind as their body sinks into the mat.

This series of blog posts will help you understand how your energy effects your fertility. As you become aware of each chakra and the potential blocks associated with it, you create awareness. Remember awareness is the first key to transformation or change. When you become aware of something you can do something to shift it. 

This series will help you identify any negative blocks in your chakras. Some of the blocks you will be able to clear your self while others you may need some further help. I will guide you through your body's energy centers and help direct you as you come back into alignment.

You Can Be a Mother! Fertility Meditation

 Some of you may have heard this meditation as an audio link. I have created a visual presentation that I hope will help inspire you to believe in your dream.  

Click here to watch and experience this meditation!

Stop “Trying” to Get Pregnant!

Has anyone ever told you to just stop trying to get pregnant and it will happen? Sure it sounds simple but why would you “stop trying” when all you want is to have a baby. How do you get pregnant if you are “not trying”?

The moment my husband and I decided we would “start trying” to get pregnant something shifted in me. Immediately lovemaking became baby-making and I had an expectation that it would happen right away. After all, I went my whole life “trying” NOT to get pregnant, so naturally when I began to “try” I believed it would happen within the first couple of months. Each month that passed without a pregnancy became heavier, more emotionally draining and exhausting.

As the months passed I began to “try” everything and anything that I read or heard about thinking it will increase my chances of conceiving. It quickly become all consuming and I felt like I was spiraling out of control. I tried and tried and tried, and nothing was working. I began to doubt whether I would ever become pregnant. I began to question everything including my relationship, I felt defeated and desperate.

I decided I would stop “trying” and began “inviting”.

Listen to how different these 2 sound and feel.

I have been “trying” to get pregnant for 2 years.
OR
I have been “inviting” conception for 2 years.

“Trying” feels heavy, tiring and worrisome like you’ve been banging your head against the wall for 2 years. “Trying” also brings up feelings of failure. It’s like you have been trying and trying and you can’t make it happen. You begin to blame yourself, your body, your partner. “Inviting” is the opposite. It feels like you’re doing something positive and productive.

Throughout your fertility journey, it’s important to keep in mind that you and your partner are not the only ones to consider. Imagine that your baby is waiting to join you. Although you may be ready, perhaps your baby isn’t quite ready yet. Or maybe your baby needs some encouragement.

I invite you to stop “trying” and begin to “invite” your baby in to your life. Tell him/her how much you will love them and care for them. Tell them stories about your partner and how you are both so excited to become their parent. Tell them you are grateful that they have chosen you, “invite” them into your heart and surround them with love. Continue to live your life and do the things that bring you joy and happiness. If you are no longer “trying” you will have more energy to live your life and appreciate all that is available to you in each moment. And you will have a greater likelihood of conceiving. Give it a try you’ll be surprised by the freedom it creates!

Fertile Wisdom Affirmations

I have created the following online Fertile Wisdom Affirmation cards to inspire you each day. You can access them through this blog post or on my website at www.familypassages.ca under the monthly highlights.
You will find beautiful butterfly cards with daily wisdom and affirmations. I have written them using the words I often repeat in the Fertility Yoga classes. Many of them are my life lessons as well.

My gift to you on your journey. I wish you all the best I am hope I can continue to inspire and empower you on your fertility path.

Click here to access your daily Fertile Wisdom Affirmation

 Namaste, Sue