Emotional Awareness, Healing & Mothering Self on your Fertility Journey

I am honoured to share my heart once again at the Fertility Focus Telesummit hosted by Sarah Holland. This is my favourite fertility event of the year. I have copied a recent interview to give you a summary of what you can expect from my workshop and links to register to secure your spot. Plus I am offering a live Spirit Baby Meditation as part of the telesummit bonus gift. So that means two live events with me. I look forward to "seeing" you on the live workshop on Monday March 9th!

Heart hugs, Sue xo

 

From Sarah Holland:

This first workshop at the Fertility Focus Telesummit is lead by Sue Dumais, a regular and very popular speaker at the Fertility Focus Telesummit. Her gentle, intuitive approach has been a delight to listen to for the past 5 years, and now I’m thrilled that she has agreed to share much more of her wisdom in a LIVE workshop with us!

 

A little bit about Sue:

Sue Dumais is a Heart Led Living Coach, best selling author, international speaker, Fertility Yoga specialist and intuitive healer who helps others see the invisible, feel the intangible and do the impossible. A true pioneer in the field of fertility, Sue developed the first Fitness Fertility Certification and an international Fertility Yoga Teacher Training Course and authored A Strong Core for Life and the Yoga for Fertility Handbook. Sue’s new book “Heart Led Living ~ When Hard Work Becomes Heart Work” inspires others to awaken their innate ability to heal and to trust their intuition as they lead with their heart and discover their “YES!” for life.

 

LIVE workshop: Emotional Awareness, Healing and Mothering Self

Monday, 9th March at 1pm Pacific | 4pm Eastern | 8pm UK time within the Fertility Focus Telesummit

 

In this 90 minute workshop you will:

• Learn how to increase your emotional awareness as you practice effective techniques that will help you process feelings of doubt, confusion, fear and jealousy.
• Learn to awaken your innate ability to heal all blocks and obstacles on your fertility path creating a more direct route to your baby to be.
• Learn how to tap into your intuition and trust you internal guidance system as you make decisions around your health and fertility options.
• Learn unique self care tips as you learn to mother your Self and find meaning and discover a deep sense of peace on your fertility journey.

Sign up for access here: http://www.fertilityfocustelesummit.com and then a GOLDEN TICKET is required to attend this workshop and also receive the recording. The upgrade option is available as soon as you have registered your free place.

 

I asked Sue to share more with us about her workshop…

 

Sarah: How did you choose the topic of your LIVE workshop at the Fertility Focus Telesummit?

 

Sue: My soul purpose in life is to inspire and empower healing in self and others. Everything I do is because I am passionate about helping others see their blocks, heal deeply, realize their truth and give birth to their dreams. When it comes to fertility I know first hand how much of an emotional ride every cycle can be. Emotional awareness is the first key to transforming life’s challenges leaving us with a powerful choice to heal. While I understand the deep desire to become a Mother I have also learned that learning to mother self is essential. You cannot give from an empty heart. When we love ourselves as much as we would love our own child it is the greatest gift we can offer. Not only does it feed our soul but it will teach our children, by example, the importance of self love and compassion.

 

Sarah: Why should listeners clear their diary on the date of your workshop and join you live?

 

Sue: As an intuitive healer I will be reading into the energy of the audience and providing specific tools and healing to those that have signed up for the summit. As part of my workshop I will be offering intuitive readings to some of the participants and answering specific questions from those individuals that are live on the call. If you have never been on a live call with me you are in for a real treat. It is very powerful and moving experience. One that most have difficulty capturing in words. You really need to feel it for yourself.

 

Sarah: What can they expect to leave with at the end of your workshop?

 

Sue: I will share as much as I can in the time we have together and I know everyone will leave with exactly what they need to support them emotionally, mentally and energetically. Everyone will leave with specific tools to help them process their emotions in the moment they arise as well as new ideas for vibrant self care. We cannot heal what we are blind to. My intention is to shine light on everything that is no longer serving so we can heal as deeply as possible in the shortest amount of time.

 

Sarah: Do you have anything else you would like to share with the Fertility Focus Telesummit listeners?

 

Sue: Be open to anything, be attached to nothing and expect miracles. Some things cannot be explained by science they need to be experienced, felt and understood on a deeper level that goes beyond our thinking mind. When we learn to align our mind with our heart and let our heart lead the way….miracles are the only side effect.

 

You can register for the Fertility Focus Telesummit, and Sue’s workshop with the GOLDEN TICKET upgrade at http://www.fertilityfocustelesummit.com

Here’s what previous attendees said about the Fertility Focus Telesummit:

“I just wanted to let you know that the Fertility Focus Telesummit in 2014 really was the key to me finding the missing piece of our jigsaw! You all had a huge impact on my journey and I'm now expecting our first baby. Thank you so much and keep up the amazing work of giving hope and inspiring women to take back control in what can sometimes seem like a helpless and very lonely situation.” - A

"Well I followed some of the advice given from the last telesummit and am now pregnant!  I'm in my second trimester! So happy to have had a chance to listen to the telesummit. Thanks for offering it!" – Heather

“I was told at age 41 that my eggs were too old and IVF was the only way. When IVF failed something inside me was adamant that was not the way. Your Telesummit last year opened my viewpoint completely and  through listening in and then following some of your speakers’ advice I became pregnant! Thank you so much Sarah for bringing me to a journey of discovery, acceptance, hope and joy.” - Roisin

"I was amazed by the amount of information shared in each of these sessions. I went from feeling hopeless to hopeful - how priceless is that! My impression was that there was a deep honoring of the many ways that woman journey through fertility and the lack of judgment towards how one does the journey was greatly appreciated." – Anonymous

“The telesummit was so inspirational, it's brought back hope that I lost when I went through an unsuccessful IVF cycle last summer. Thank you so so much!!” - Anonymous

Be sure to sign up here for your FREE place at this event by clicking here.

This could be the best thing you do this year for you and your fertility.

Heart hugs,

Sue Dumais


P.S. Remember it all starts on 8th March so there’s not long to secure your place. Visit www.fertilityfocustelesummit.com to sign up now.

P.P.S. Do you know anyone else who is struggling with fertility issues?  Please pass this email on to them and I’m sure they’ll thank you.   

 

Yoga for Fertility CAN Help You Conceive Your Dream

Are you or someone you know trying to get pregnant?

Do you want to know how yoga can help improve a woman's chance of conceiving?

Are you interested in learning which poses help with fertility and which poses can potentially harm reproductive health?

Research has shown that reducing stress and practicing deep relaxation using yoga and meditation can increase your chances of conceiving. This specific fertility practice uses effective meditations and fertility yoga poses to help calm anxiety, let go of negative thinking and increase circulation to the pelvis and reproductive organs.

Sue has a gentle yet powerful way of helping couples transform their experience of fertility. Feel inspire and empowered as you walk away with the tools you need to prepare your mind, body and spirit for conception.

You will learn:
~ effective mind body tools to reduce stress and anxiety and improve reproductive health
~ what yoga poses can be helpful and which ones can be harmful during conception

~ how to transform negative thoughts and create a solution oriented mindset

~ the benefits of meditation and how to begin a daily practice

~ how to find a Fertility Yoga class in your area

~ how to begin a Fertility Yoga practice at home 

~ about the International Fertility Yoga Teacher Training Program

Click here to watch Sue Dumais' recorded webinar from Canadian Infertility Awareness Week
(Note: you need flash player to watch this webinar)

Interview for The Fertile Mind

I recently had the honour of connecting with Fertility Cognitive Hypnotherapist Russel Davis. I felt an immediate respect and gratitude for his passion for fertility. We have very similar mindsets when it comes to supporting couples and helping them overcome fertility challenges. He is a beautiful individual and I am excited to introduce him to you.

Russel asked to interview me on my natural approach to fertility and how I support women and couples through this challenging life experience.

Click on the link and you will find my interview as you scroll down the page. Be sure to check out all the other fertility experts he interviewed including Dr Christiane Northrup, Dr Alice Domar and more.

Follow your heart and let your intuition lead you to the people and the tools that are meant to help you navigate this journey.

I hope this gives you some support through the holidays.

http://www.thefertilemind.net/interviews/

I hold faith and trust in your dream coming to fruition...borrow my belief if you need to...it is unwavering. 

Namaste ~ Sue xo

Afraid to LOVE

I have spent the last 2 weeks reflecting on the idea of loving with my whole heart. I have always said that I did and perhaps I was saying it because that was my intention but recently I recognized that my iron shield is still in place protecting my heart from hurt.

I was reading a blog by Lissa Rankin and she shared a story about her dog being injured and she wrote the words "I give you permission to break my heart". My breath stopped and I felt a knife piercing my heart. The words were powerful and triggered a deep response in my body. My internal dialogue was strong and fierce "why would I give others permission to hurt me?"

I felt the "flight or fight" response in my body kick in as a rush of adrenalin was released and a deep sense of fear filled my body and mind. It was as if I were fighting for my life and my first instinct was to run and hide. Why did those words hit me so deeply? As I turned my attention inward I felt a shield around my heart. What I heard was "I give you permission to hurt me". I realized my heart was still closed off because there was a part of me that was still so afraid to be hurt. Not only was this thick shield protecting me from hurt but it was blocking me from really loving with my whole heart.


When I was younger I felt like a victim of life's circumstances. I grew up with a lot of pain, physically and emotionally. I held onto the pain so that I wouldn't burden others, especially my Mother. Many years ago someone taught me that no one else can hurt me, I can only choose to feel hurt. This idea allowed me to move from feeling like a victim to Standing in my POWER again. I felt a renewed sense of control as I realized I had the ability to choose how to respond in any situation.What I just realized is that the idea that no one can hurt me I can only choose to feel hurt actually became another layer of iron on my shield protecting my heart. 

I have moments when I open the gates to my heart fully and it is in those moments I feel most vulnerable. Why can't I keep the gates open all the time? What am I so afraid of? Is it really about being afraid of feeling hurt or am I really afraid to love fully and completely?

Love is such a powerful emotion and to love fully feels overwhelming to me. The good news it is only overwhelming because it is unfamiliar. As I continue to practice opening my heart to feel fully it will become more familiar and become easier and easier. Does that protect me from feeling hurt, grief, disappointment and fear? Absolutely not. I want to feel everything, the positive and the negative emotions. That is what being human is all about. It is in the fear you recognize and appreciate love. It is in deep sadness you appreciate joy and happiness. We need the contrast to appreciate and recognize how good joy and love feels.

To what extent do you love with your whole heart? Are you willing to give and receive love without a shield of protection around your heart? Are you afraid to love? Can you love like you have never been hurt before?

To some people it may seem impossible to heal  a deep seeded fear like this one but I know in my heart ANYTHING can be healed. I am choosing a gentle path for this one. Instead of forcing and trying to get rid of my iron shield it I will bless it for all the lessons it provided. I will love as much as I can in each moment and let go of any judgments or fears as they show up.

Each day my intention is to repeat and embrace the following affirmation:
"I choose to live through the opening in my heart."


I would love to hear from you. Please share your comments below.

What is it Going to Take?

What are you willing to do to get pregnant/to have a baby? How many more things will you "try" before you hit the wall of surrender? What is it going to take for you to take charge of your own health?


When I first started "trying" to conceive I was coming from a place of desperation. I had recovered physically from my miscarriage and my only focus was to get pregnant again. I was willing to do anything and everything.


Stand on my head ~ ok
Relax, get drunk and it will happen ~ tried it - didn't work!
Take your temperature and chart it each morning at 6am ~ yep
Elevate my pelvis after intercourse ~ every time!
Stop eating sugar ~ difficult but did it
No more alcohol ~ yes well worth it
Acunpuncture ~ weekly
Yoga and meditation ~ daily
Yucky tasting herbs ~ all I can say is YES but YUCK
Highest Quality Supplements ~ improved my health and reduced my symptoms dramatically


I was willing and committed to doing whatever I needed to do to get pregnant. My desire to have a baby was so intensely strong that nothing was going to stand in my way. Two years later I conceived my son and all the positive changes I made contributed to a healthy pregnancy and baby. After he was born we were open to conceive another. This time I wasn't willing to go through the chaos and ride the emotional roller coaster ride once again. I didn't want to desperately try everything. There had to be another way.

I started to reflect on the following questions:
Why was I willing to make all these positive lifestyle changes to get pregnant but not for me?
Why was a baby worth it but I wasn't?
Why was I committed to doing whatever I needed to in order to conceive but I wasn't willing to make those changes for my own health and wholeness?

I learned in the last 7 years working with my fertility clients through yoga therapy, support groups and Fertility Yoga classes that learning to Mother Self is the greatest gift you can give your child. If you were willing to do whatever it takes to be your healthiest self before pregnancy, before your baby arrived in your arms that would be the greatest gift you could ever give your child and yourself. Not only will it contribute to a healthier pregnancy, baby and lifestyle it will also help you teach your child self love.

Your child will learn from your actions not your words. If you are showing them by example that self care is essential they will learn love and respect for self. If you recognize that filling your cup first and giving from the overflow is the key to be able to continue to give and give and give without feeling depleted and hitting the brick wall, they will understand the importance of self love and self care.

What is it going to take for you to focus on your health and well-being? Instead of allowing the thoughts of fear, stress and worry consume you and interfere with your ability to create fertile soil for conception, focus on being your healthiest self. Maybe you will begin by making positive changes for your baby to be and hopefully you can shift it to making healthy choices because YOU are worth it. You deserve to feel good inside and out! You are worthy of health and wholeness! You can be a light of health for everyone around you! You can do it! All it takes is a willingness to make one small change for YOU.

What is it going to take? Fertility, Cancer, Diabetes or another health challenge? What if your fertility challenges was a sign post to wake you up? What if it was placed on your path to turn your focus inward and begin a journey of self discovery like mine was? What if it was designed to help you awaken the healthiest YOU and teach you to Mother Self so you can be a more grounded, centered and present as a parent?

Something to consider...

Afraid to Blog

After reading a friend's blog post this week I realized that I am afraid to write in my own blog. I used to share my blog posts frequently. I write in my journal every day but I have not been sharing it. Something shifted. As I processed the fear in my body, the underlying message is that I am afraid of judgment. This is curious because most of my writing in this blog has been about sharing my own fertility journey. I was sharing so openly and honestly for so long. What shifted and why is it coming up now?

It has been 7 years since my husband and I have been open to conceive another child. Since following my heart to adopt a little girl from Africa I have felt a deep sense of peace. I explored the fear a little deeper, suddenly I felt a ping in my heart and the memory of a client's email came flooding back to me. Shortly after we decided to start the adoption process a client emailed me calling me a hypocrite. While I realized not everyone understood my journey and my decision to adopt, I never had someone verbally "attack me" about it.

I handled the email with love and grace and processed my emotions the best way I could. I recognized it was not about my decision to adopt but her own guilt for feeling forced as a teenager to give her own daughter up for adoption. I processed it emotionally and mentally but apparently some fear was planted in my heart at that time because shortly after that my writing slowed down.

I had been putting myself out there, sharing so openly and wearing my heart on my sleeve for so long that I didn't realize how much this email hurt me. Since then I have been afraid to blog about the adoption process. There has been a block and I had convinced myself it was because I was focusing on recording episodes for my Redefining Fertility Radio show. It turns out the incident shut down my heart.

Sharing openly about my own fertility journey was very therapeutic and healing for me, for my clients and all the women worldwide who were reading my blog.  It is amazing how one incident can have such a deep impact on your life and creep in to affect your life in ways that you wouldn't really see. I felt resistance in writing my book and my blog. It was the resistance that showed up clearly this week when I spoke to a coach about my new book Solving Your Fertility Puzzle. Now that I am aware of it I am ready to face the fear and start writing again. 

I will not let fear hold me back from writing anymore. My writing is a source of support and inspiration and I open my heart to allow the message to come freely again. I write from my heart and allow the messages to come through me. Some people will appreciate my words and others won't. All I need to do is follow my heart and the words will land where they need to land.

My book Solving Your Fertility Puzzle will be completed soon as I am committing to working with a coach. I can share my story openly along with the mind body tools that I have used to help countless women and couples worldwide.

Thank you for letting me share my journey with you and I hope it continues to inspire you!
Hugs,
Sue

Stop Trying, Start Inviting

Has anyone ever told you that you just need to "stop trying" and then you will conceive? While for some women that feels like a thorn, there is some truth to it. So how to you stop trying?

Join Sue Dumais as she explores this concept. This episode will inspire you to see a new perspective that will leave you with HOPE in your heart and an empowered mindset.

Click here to listen to this Redefining Fertility Radio Show episode.